Comments for Babies Tale http://www.babiestale.com Just another WordPress weblog Sat, 04 Jul 2009 15:59:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 Comment on Crisis of Motherhood by admin http://www.babiestale.com/2007/09/21/crisis-of-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-175 admin Wed, 21 Jan 2009 12:03:42 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2007/09/21/crisis-of-motherhood/#comment-175 I suspect if the same conditions occurred earlier in life, (say 18 - 28), it would have likely make any appreciable difference. I'm sure the nuances are different (younger thus more stamina) but the general environment (less personal time is the same at any age, young kids are a handful at any age, parental worry is the same at any age, etc.) Might I suggest a "nanny". Paid help is a real blessing for all including the children... I'm sure if Mom is compromised the kids feel this, even at a young age child are extremely perceptive. They may not understand it but they do feel it. A nanny is a natural "fairness" to everyone including the kids (so long as you find a good fit). I suspect if the same conditions occurred earlier in life, (say 18 - 28), it would have likely make any appreciable difference.

I’m sure the nuances are different (younger thus more stamina) but the general environment (less personal time is the same at any age, young kids are a handful at any age, parental worry is the same at any age, etc.)

Might I suggest a “nanny”. Paid help is a real blessing for all including the children… I’m sure if Mom is compromised the kids feel this, even at a young age child are extremely perceptive. They may not understand it but they do feel it.

A nanny is a natural “fairness” to everyone including the kids (so long as you find a good fit).

]]> Comment on Crisis of Motherhood by alina noval http://www.babiestale.com/2007/09/21/crisis-of-motherhood/comment-page-1/#comment-174 alina noval Wed, 21 Jan 2009 04:34:40 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2007/09/21/crisis-of-motherhood/#comment-174 My daughter is a career woman, with a masters. She married at thirty and had her first baby 9 months later. She and her husband were ecstatic. The boy is a healthy robust beautiful blue eyed boy with a face of a darling. A really smart good looker. She gave birth to her second baby an adorable girl with some minor developmental delays. This drove my daughter over the top. She was so depressed and complained about not having time out like before with friends. She reduced her career she went to work only 3 days a week . Her husband is overwhelmed always as well, she's in a bad mood daily. Even though her daughter is doing fine the comments about being with two small kids seems unfair to her- they keep her exhausted and compromised. There is something about having your kids earlier . My daughter is a career woman, with a masters. She married at thirty and had her first baby 9 months later. She and her husband were ecstatic. The boy is a healthy robust beautiful blue eyed boy with a face of a darling. A really smart good looker. She gave birth to her second baby an adorable girl with some minor developmental delays. This drove my daughter over the top. She was so depressed and complained about not having time out like before with friends. She reduced her career she went to work only 3 days a week . Her husband is overwhelmed always as well, she’s in a bad mood daily. Even though her daughter is doing fine the comments about being with two small kids seems unfair to her- they keep her exhausted and compromised. There is something about having your kids earlier .

]]> Comment on Not Having Children by admin http://www.babiestale.com/2008/02/18/not-having-children/comment-page-1/#comment-166 admin Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:17:31 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2008/02/18/not-having-children/#comment-166 Food for thought: Whether you desire children or not now, that may change in the future. But in the future you may not be able to conceive and as women get older they are more prone to conceiving a baby with down syndrome. It would be wise to have a gynecologist review your case and preserve some of your eggs and even some of your husband's sperm; "just in case". It is human nature to procreate. If that desire some days creeps up on you and "you can't"... that's more of a tragedy than feeling a little pressure from friends. Food for thought:

Whether you desire children or not now, that may change in the future.

But in the future you may not be able to conceive and as women get older they are more prone to conceiving a baby with down syndrome.

It would be wise to have a gynecologist review your case and preserve some of your eggs and even some of your husband’s sperm; “just in case”.

It is human nature to procreate. If that desire some days creeps up on you and “you can’t”… that’s more of a tragedy than feeling a little pressure from friends.

]]> Comment on Not Having Children by Laurie http://www.babiestale.com/2008/02/18/not-having-children/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Laurie Tue, 28 Oct 2008 21:08:07 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2008/02/18/not-having-children/#comment-165 I feel the same way ... I'm 29 and DO NOT want children. Everyone pressures my husband and I, and sometimes he evens gets on the bandwagon and pressures me. I don't want children because I've never liked children, I don't like the idea of being on someone else's schedule or being hindered from doing things because of "the baby" or "the kids". A friend of mine is eagerly trying to get pregnant, yet her and her husband are always broke. I said to her, "Babies are a big financial responsibility, don't you think you should wait" and she started crying and wouldn't talk to me for weeks. They say it's selfish to not want a child, but isn't it just as selfish to want one so bad you can't stand it? I feel the same way … I’m 29 and DO NOT want children. Everyone pressures my husband and I, and sometimes he evens gets on the bandwagon and pressures me. I don’t want children because I’ve never liked children, I don’t like the idea of being on someone else’s schedule or being hindered from doing things because of “the baby” or “the kids”. A friend of mine is eagerly trying to get pregnant, yet her and her husband are always broke. I said to her, “Babies are a big financial responsibility, don’t you think you should wait” and she started crying and wouldn’t talk to me for weeks. They say it’s selfish to not want a child, but isn’t it just as selfish to want one so bad you can’t stand it?

]]> Comment on Amniocentesis by MARINA GASK http://www.babiestale.com/2008/02/18/amniocentesis/comment-page-1/#comment-163 MARINA GASK Tue, 07 Oct 2008 12:42:55 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2008/02/18/amniocentesis/#comment-163 Hello I am a journalist commissioned by Mother & Baby magazine in the UK to write a balanced feature about the dangers of miscarrying following an Amnio or CVS Downs Screening test. I need a case study - a woman who miscarried following such a test - and wondered if you could put me in touch with your case study, Cindy in the feature above. Many thanks Marina Gask Freelance journalist Hello
I am a journalist commissioned by Mother & Baby magazine in the UK to write a balanced feature about the dangers of miscarrying following an Amnio or CVS Downs Screening test. I need a case study - a woman who miscarried following such a test - and wondered if you could put me in touch with your case study, Cindy in the feature above.

Many thanks
Marina Gask
Freelance journalist

]]> Comment on In-vitro Fertilization IVF by roya dolat http://www.babiestale.com/2007/09/27/in-vitro-fertilization-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-95 roya dolat Mon, 21 Apr 2008 07:29:05 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2007/09/27/in-vitro-fertilization-ivf/#comment-95 Hi, I am 44 years old, somke 7-10 sigarates per day, I & my husband want to have a baby, please noyify me what are the chancds oh having a healty baby and sercomstances and what should we do? best regards Hi, I am 44 years old, somke 7-10 sigarates per day, I & my husband want to have a baby, please noyify me what are the chancds oh having a healty baby and sercomstances and what should we do?
best regards

]]> Comment on Baby’s First Birthday by admin http://www.babiestale.com/2007/05/08/babys-first-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-5 admin Mon, 17 Sep 2007 05:14:06 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2007/05/08/babys-first-birthday/#comment-5 hmmm... admittedly your contribution wasn't available. hmmm… admittedly your contribution wasn’t available.

]]> Comment on Baby’s First Birthday by Daniel http://www.babiestale.com/2007/05/08/babys-first-birthday/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Daniel Wed, 29 Aug 2007 15:14:51 +0000 http://www.babiestale.com/2007/05/08/babys-first-birthday/#comment-4 Just read your comments on baby's first birthday. What a load of rubbish. First the day is about the baby (or babies in our case) and not the mother. And secondly, if there is an additional celebration it should be for the parents (ie mother and father). This antiquated approach that you are promoting that the mother is the one to be congratulated and patted on the back belongs in the 50s. Where is the mention of the father? What we don't exist or something? Get real and get into the 21st century - parenting is a shared responsibility and is something that I as a father love to be an equal part of. You have no place and clearly no authority to write this drivel congratulating only the mother. Just read your comments on baby’s first birthday. What a load of rubbish. First the day is about the baby (or babies in our case) and not the mother. And secondly, if there is an additional celebration it should be for the parents (ie mother and father). This antiquated approach that you are promoting that the mother is the one to be congratulated and patted on the back belongs in the 50s.

Where is the mention of the father?

What we don’t exist or something?

Get real and get into the 21st century - parenting is a shared responsibility and is something that I as a father love to be an equal part of.
You have no place and clearly no authority to write this drivel congratulating only the mother.

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